Position Him Through Your Prayers
In our distraction-saturated culture, we are each bombarded with a continuous supply of activity to steal our time, energy, and focus. But it still remains true:
We will make time for what is important to us.
Already a couple weeks into a new year, it’s not too late to begin making some important additions, or subtractions, in our lives. From me to you, if you could change one thing this year, if you could add one thing to your already full schedule—and then maybe subtract other things not so important—If you do anything this year, then do this—for you and your husband, your marriage, and your family:
PRAY.
Are there areas in your life, your marriage, or your family, that you are not confident you are experiencing the 100% will of God? Not experiencing God’s perfect will and plan in our lives, families, and marriages brings frustration, unhappiness, and dis-ease. Are we waiting on God to make a change? Or, is His will being done in our lives more in our control than we have thought?
In my life, I have come to realize that things do not automatically change or transpire for the good on their own, even if they are God’s perfect will. God doesn’t and won’t “make His will come to pass” without us giving Him access. PRAYER is one area that gives God a way in to bring His will to pass in the areas we are praying about. Do you want God’s will for your marriage and your husband? PRAY about it. Give God access. One lady minister once said that prayer builds a highway for the plan of God.
There are many things that just will not happen apart from love-motivated, Spirit-led, faith-filled prayer. There are things that God just will not do, unless someone asks Him. I see prayer as the hands that reach into the realm of the spirit and “pull down” God’s plan and will into our lives, here into the natural realm. God said He knows the things that we need in our lives, or the things that need to happen in our lives, but He still tells us to ASK HIM. “Asking Him,” aka “praying,” is what opens the door for Him to bring these things into our lives:
…your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him.
In this manner, therefore, pray:
Our Father in heaven,
Hallowed (holy) be Your name.
Your kingdom come.
Your will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
(Matthew 6:8-10, NKJV)
With this in mind, while it would be amazing if we prayed every day for our husbands, what if we at least prayed one time a week for him? Think of the results we would begin to see. And if we did pray every day faithfully, diligently, and fervently? The results would be eye popping! Too many wives, me included, have gotten sidetracked from the vital importance of time spent with the Lord in prayer for our husbands.
… pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored. The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power]. (James 5:16, AMP)
The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. (James 5:16, NKJV)
I honestly believe the biggest way to help our husbands—I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again—is through prayer. You want to see results and real help for your husband? Pray. And when we pray according to the Word by actually praying the Word, we can be confident we are outright asking for God’s will. We don’t have to wonder if we are praying God’s will when we pray according to the Word.
…always laboring fervently for you in prayers, that you may stand perfect and complete in all the will of God. (Colossians 4:12, NKJV)
I’m gonna give you a few prayers FROM SCRIPTURE that you can pray over your husband, regularly and faithfully, and I promise you, you will see results. It’s not magic, yet when I have prayed these prayers from a heart of love and faith, there have been many times when I would see the results in my husband, my jaw would drop, and I would say under my breath, “Wow, it really works.” I shouldn’t be shocked, though! The Word does work, when applied with love motives and faith in God’s Word. When we pray God’s Word with a heart of love and trust, believing The Word we are praying is for sure 100% God’s will, we will see it come to pass:
Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him. (1 John 5:14-15, NKJV)
So, if you are thinking you wouldn’t know where to start if you started today, let me make it very easy for you. These prayers below are straight out of the B-I-B-L-E. I have made them personal and easy for each of us to pray these for our husbands. You can also pray these over yourself! And if you don’t understand some of them because of the version, I encourage you to look them up in other versions and pray them the way they are real to you.
Colossians 1:9-11 “Father God, in the name of Jesus, I pray for my husband and ask that he would be filled with the knowledge of Your will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that He may walk worthy of You Lord, fully pleasing You, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all might, according to Your glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy…”
Philippians 1:9-11 “Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray that my and my husband's love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, that we may approve the things that are excellent, that we may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ, being filled with the fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ, to Your glory and praise.”
Ephesians 1:15-19 “I do not cease to give thanks for my husband, making mention of him in my prayers: I pray that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to my husband the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Jesus, the eyes of his understanding being enlightened; that he may know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, and what is the exceeding greatness of His power toward us who believe, according to the working of His mighty power which He worked in Christ when He raised Him from the dead and seated Him at His right hand in the heavenly places...”
Ephesians 3:14-19 “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant my husband, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in my husband’s heart through faith; that he, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height—to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that he may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”
Romans 15:13 “God of Hope, I pray that You would fill my husband with all joy and peace in believing that He may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
But honestly, even if you don't understand every detail of these scriptural prayers, as you continue to pray them in faith, you will get more and more light as to what you are praying.
Remember, you are your husband’s gift! The Bible says a man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men. Yes, yes, I know that verse has other meanings—but think of it from this perspective. Through prayer and believing in your husband, you—HIS GIFT—can make room for him and bring him before great men. This “position” he is brought into through your prayers for him will no doubt be a position in God’s will for his life. How exciting!
And while you are praying, the Lord will show you things you can do, steps you can take, and natural ways you can help your husband—things that will also position him in such a way that he is enabled to do what’s in His heart for God. Through our prayers and love actions, we can create an atmosphere that makes it easy for our husband to take steps in the right direction to accomplish all God has for US. Notice I said, US, and not just him. You are in it together.
Romans 15:5-6 “Father God, I ask that You, the God of patience and comfort, would grant my husband and me to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus, that we may with one mind and one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Until next time,
Jess