Every marriage faces disappointment — but much of that pain stems from misplaced expectation. When we expect our spouse to fill every need, we set ourselves up for frustration. But when we place our expectation on God, He fills our hearts with peace, joy, and the strength to love without conditions.

Jessica Curtis shares her personal journey of learning to let go of demands and receive her husband as a gift, not a checklist. Through Scripture, humor, and real-life stories, she reminds wives that God alone is the Source of every good thing.

If you’ve been weary from unmet expectations or frustrated by your spouse’s flaws, this letter will refresh your faith and show you how to love freely again — not by control, but by trust in the One who never disappoints.

Deep within every marriage lies treasure — not always seen on the surface, but planted by God Himself. Like diamond diggers who search through the dirt with faith and expectation, we too must look beyond imperfections to uncover the precious gifts hidden within our spouse.

In this message, Matthew and Jessica Curtis remind us that the good we choose to see and value is the good we will experience. Honor draws out what’s hidden; love uncovers what’s buried. Your husband or wife is full of God-given gems just waiting to shine — but they’re revealed only to those who will dig in faith, not frustration.

Pray for eyes to see the good, wisdom to draw it out, and a heart that treasures the one God gave you.

Peace is a gift Jesus paid for, yet it can be quickly lost when we let pride, careless words, or strife slip in. This Christmas, choose to hold your peace. Guard your mouth, walk in humility, and let the peace of Christ rule in your home so your celebrations reflect Him—the Prince of Peace.

After 19 years, we’ve learned this: marital “trouble” lives in the flesh—and peace flourishes in the Spirit. This letter unpacks Galatians 5 and Romans 8 to show how renewing your mind in the Word shifts you from contention, pride, and impatience to love, joy, peace, and self-control. Choose the Spirit daily, and watch marriage conflict fade while unity and closeness grow.

If you want spiritual results in your marriage, you have to be spiritual. This letter unpacks Romans 8 and Galatians 5 to show why flesh fuels fear, pride, and strife—and how a renewed mind plus real fellowship with the Holy Spirit turns your home into a place of life and peace. Includes practical “small swaps” (Proverbs-a-day, prayer on your commute, worship in everyday moments) to strengthen your spirit and quiet the flesh.

Sometimes we find ourselves trying to manage, direct, or “fix” our spouse, believing we know what’s best. But control steals peace and undermines love. God calls us to trust Him with our husbands, to release the pressure and rest in His leadership. When we let go of control, honor returns—and peace follows.

So many marital frustrations trace back to one root: misplaced expectation. When our hope rests on a spouse’s performance, disappointment is inevitable. This letter invites wives to shift their gaze to the Lord—“my expectation is from Him” (Ps. 62:5)—and to receive every act from their husband as a gift, not a demand. Trade checklists for gratitude and watch love, peace, and joy grow.

When we honor our spouse, we position ourselves to receive what God has placed inside of them. Honor unlocks intimacy, wisdom, and joy in marriage