Many couples love each other, attend church, and live for God—yet never actually pray together. But when a husband and wife join in agreement before the Lord, their marriage becomes a threefold cord that cannot be broken. Praying together strengthens unity, deepens intimacy, invites God’s presence into your home, and turns you and your spouse into a team—no longer against one another, but standing together against the enemy. If you’ve struggled to pray together or don’t know how to begin, this letter will guide you into simple, meaningful steps to make prayer a natural part of your everyday marriage.

Submission in marriage isn’t one-sided—it’s a shared posture of honor. Ephesians 5:21 tells us to “submit to one another in the fear of God,” meaning both husband and wife have something of Jesus to bring into the relationship. When we yield to each other in humility, we strengthen our unity and operate together in the fullness God intended for our marriage.

Marriage isn’t just about not doing the wrong thing — it’s about intentionally choosing the right thing toward your spouse. When we remember that we are “one flesh,” we stop treating each other's weaknesses as burdens and instead stay connected, supportive, and united. Every step toward each other strengthens the marriage; every step away invites division.

When the Lord asks us to release something we value, it’s never to leave us empty—it’s to place something greater into our hands. This is the story of how God prompted me to give away my own wedding ring and how He beautifully restored and multiplied what was surrendered. Let this testimony remind your heart that whatever the Master needs, He always repays with love, purpose, and joy.

Sometimes without realizing it, we begin speaking to our spouse the same way we speak to our children—correcting, directing, and controlling. But mothering your husband (or fathering your wife) reveals a lack of trust and slowly weakens the bond God designed for marriage. Stepping back, honoring one another’s God-given roles, and choosing love over control restores unity and strengthens intimacy.

God created you with your husband in mind—not as a burden or an afterthought, but as a gift of goodness, support, and favor for his life. When you let God reshape how you see yourself as a wife, your marriage begins to reflect His design. You are a treasure to your husband, and your role carries divine purpose.

Disrespect in marriage rarely comes from nowhere—it grows from hurt that hasn’t been healed. But God shows us how to uproot bitterness and restore honor. When we recognize the hurt, repent, renew our minds, and choose honor again, we recover closeness, unity, and the joy God intended for marriage.

Marriage goes stale when we stop growing. Looking back on 18 years together, we’ve learned that willing, Christ-centered change—of attitudes, habits, even personality rough edges—keeps love vibrant. As we behold the Word and let the Holy Spirit reshape us, we move from glory to glory (2 Cor 3:18), trading stagnation for steady renewal (Eph 4:23). Ask God to “work in you to will and to do” (Phil 2:13), make brave adjustments, and watch your marriage brighten like the dawn (Prov 4:18) in the year ahead.

Just like a physical house needs a blueprint, our marriages and families require God’s design to stand strong. When our home is built on the Word, framed by the wife’s wisdom, and covered by the husband’s leadership, the result is peace, stability, and blessing. God’s way works—and when we follow His blueprint, our home becomes filled with precious and pleasant riches.

Sometimes we find ourselves trying to manage, direct, or “fix” our spouse, believing we know what’s best. But control steals peace and undermines love. God calls us to trust Him with our husbands, to release the pressure and rest in His leadership. When we let go of control, honor returns—and peace follows.

True biblical love is not passive—it sacrifices. In this letter, Matt shares how husbands are called to love their wives the same way Christ loved the Church: by giving, serving, and nurturing with tenderness. As this love grows, marriages grow stronger, sweeter, and more deeply rooted in Christ.

Today marks 39 years of my parents’ marriage—years that have held both beauty and deep hardship. Yet through it all, I’ve watched the goodness of God sustain them. Their testimony is living proof that when we value our spouse as a gift from the Lord and refuse to quit, God restores, redeems, and rewrites the story. Their perseverance has shaped generations—including mine—and I believe their story will strengthen yours, too.

Proverbs doesn’t just warn husbands about the “strange woman”—it warns wives not to become like her. The strange woman flatters, manipulates, and seeks her own advantage. A godly wife, however, loves from a pure and sincere heart, giving her husband a place of safety and trust. This letter invites us to examine our motives and return to the honest, faithful love that reflects Christ.

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Sometimes we don’t realize how often we are “contending” with our husbands—coming against them in steady comments, corrections, and resistance. Proverbs calls this the contentious woman, and God shows us that the root of this comes from the heart. Just like repairing a leak, the healing comes when we let the Lord reveal and address the root issue. When we return to standing with our husbands instead of facing against them, peace begins to flow again.

Joy is a spiritual strength that keeps our marriages alive and flourishing, even in seasons of pressure or stress. When we choose joy—when we laugh together, sing, play, remember God’s goodness, and refuse to yield to heaviness—the atmosphere of our home changes. Real joy comes from believing we will see God’s goodness, right in the land of the living. Let’s put on the garment of praise and bring life and refreshment back into our marriages.

Intimacy is meant to be a flowing, refreshing fountain in marriage—not something stagnant or forgotten. When we intentionally love and bless our husbands physically, we reopen the river of closeness, joy, and unity. May our marriages be filled with living waters again.

This testimony tells the story of a wife who chose covenant love even through repeated betrayal, absence, and heartbreak. Through prayer, endurance, and faith in God’s promises, her husband was restored and their marriage redeemed. Her story reminds us: if we do not give up, we will see the glory of God in our marriages.

If there is one thing to add to your life this year for the sake of your marriage, let it be prayer. Prayer gives God access to move, lead, restore, and strengthen. This letter offers scripture-based prayers you can speak over your husband—confidently asking for God’s will and expecting to see His goodness in your home.

So many marital frustrations trace back to one root: misplaced expectation. When our hope rests on a spouse’s performance, disappointment is inevitable. This letter invites wives to shift their gaze to the Lord—“my expectation is from Him” (Ps. 62:5)—and to receive every act from their husband as a gift, not a demand. Trade checklists for gratitude and watch love, peace, and joy grow.

Submission isn’t agreement—it’s trust. God designed it for our good, and when we yield to His way, we never lose—we only gain.