Your husband is your specialty! God has given you a unique grace as a wife that no one else can carry. Be encouraged—marriage is a gift, and with Him, it can be fruitful, fulfilling, and fun!
Staying In Faith For Your Marriage/Spouse
Marriage gives us daily chances to live by faith—not by what we see. When issues arise, Scripture teaches us to take them to God, not into our own hands. Pray in faith, add patience, and let the Lord send the right “laborers” to your spouse’s heart.
Hebrews 11:1 reminds us that faith is the evidence of what we don’t yet see, and Colossians 4:2 shows us how to wait well: keep praying, stay watchful, and be thankful. That gratitude guards your prayers while God is working behind the scenes—even when it looks unchanged.
Instead of pushing, trust. Instead of fixing, pray. As faith and patience work together, you’ll watch God bring real, lasting change in you, your spouse, and your marriage.
Yes—your spouse can change. But not by your pushing, correcting, or trying to fix them. Scripture shows that real, lasting change happens when God touches the heart—and He often uses divine connections (Matthew 9:37–38) to do it.
Instead of straining to make your spouse see, do, or become something, this letter teaches how to pray for God-sent laborers, trust His timing, and stay out of His way.
Just like God surrounded Saul with the right people and turned him into another man (1 Samuel 10:6–9), He can elevate your spouse too—into a higher place of grace, calling, maturity, and love.
Won’t He do it? Yes, He will.
Today marks 39 years of my parents’ marriage—years that have held both beauty and deep hardship. Yet through it all, I’ve watched the goodness of God sustain them. Their testimony is living proof that when we value our spouse as a gift from the Lord and refuse to quit, God restores, redeems, and rewrites the story. Their perseverance has shaped generations—including mine—and I believe their story will strengthen yours, too.
This testimony tells the story of a wife who chose covenant love even through repeated betrayal, absence, and heartbreak. Through prayer, endurance, and faith in God’s promises, her husband was restored and their marriage redeemed. Her story reminds us: if we do not give up, we will see the glory of God in our marriages.
The Power of Prayer In Marriage
Many wives feel the weight of carrying the spiritual load at home, especially when their husband isn’t growing or leading. But frustration, discouragement, and pressure don’t produce change—faith-filled, Scripture-based prayer does. This letter teaches how to cast your care on the Lord, pray the Word, and partner with God in seeing your husband strengthened, equipped, and transformed by His grace.
Many couples love each other, attend church, and live for God—yet never actually pray together. But when a husband and wife join in agreement before the Lord, their marriage becomes a threefold cord that cannot be broken. Praying together strengthens unity, deepens intimacy, invites God’s presence into your home, and turns you and your spouse into a team—no longer against one another, but standing together against the enemy. If you’ve struggled to pray together or don’t know how to begin, this letter will guide you into simple, meaningful steps to make prayer a natural part of your everyday marriage.
If there is one thing to add to your life this year for the sake of your marriage, let it be prayer. Prayer gives God access to move, lead, restore, and strengthen. This letter offers scripture-based prayers you can speak over your husband—confidently asking for God’s will and expecting to see His goodness in your home.
The House Of The Righteous
Righteousness isn’t a feeling—it’s a gift we receive in Jesus. When a home is established in righteousness, Scripture promises it will stand (Prov. 12:7) and overflow with peace, confidence, and protection (Isa. 54:13–15; 32:17–18).
This letter unpacks what “the house of the righteous” looks like—and how to build that atmosphere for your marriage and children. As you believe what God has made you in Christ and teach it at home, shame loses its grip, fear fades, and the fruit is clear: unlimited peace, no fear, no destruction, rock-solid confidence, and victory every time.
When your home is established in righteousness, everything changes. Peace reigns, fear leaves, confidence rises, and victory becomes your normal.
In this follow-up to Established in Righteousness (Part 1), Matthew and Jessica Curtis unpack the five powerful effects of living from your God-given position in Christ: unlimited peace, freedom from fear, protection from destruction, unshakable confidence, and victory in every area of life.
When you and your family believe you are the righteousness of God in Christ—and live like it—your household becomes a dwelling place of peace, provision, and blessing.
Just like a physical house needs a blueprint, our marriages and families require God’s design to stand strong. When our home is built on the Word, framed by the wife’s wisdom, and covered by the husband’s leadership, the result is peace, stability, and blessing. God’s way works—and when we follow His blueprint, our home becomes filled with precious and pleasant riches.
Developing A Godly Marriage
Healthy, joy-filled marriages don’t “happen”—they grow. Scripture gives us the target: Christ and the Church (Eph. 5). This letter casts a clear vision for husbands and wives to mature together—leading and serving in love, honoring God’s order, and “pressing on” (Phil. 3:12–14). As you practice biblical roles with humility and unity, your home flourishes and your marriage becomes a living picture of Jesus and His Bride.
Marriage goes stale when we stop growing. Looking back on 18 years together, we’ve learned that willing, Christ-centered change—of attitudes, habits, even personality rough edges—keeps love vibrant. As we behold the Word and let the Holy Spirit reshape us, we move from glory to glory (2 Cor 3:18), trading stagnation for steady renewal (Eph 4:23). Ask God to “work in you to will and to do” (Phil 2:13), make brave adjustments, and watch your marriage brighten like the dawn (Prov 4:18) in the year ahead.
True biblical love is not passive—it sacrifices. In this letter, Matt shares how husbands are called to love their wives the same way Christ loved the Church: by giving, serving, and nurturing with tenderness. As this love grows, marriages grow stronger, sweeter, and more deeply rooted in Christ.
Our children will imitate what they see in us. Let’s give them a godly example of love, honor, and marriage worth copying.
Every wife longs for a glorious marriage. The only way to get there? God’s way. Follow the yellow brick road of His Word to lasting love and joy.
Just like investors go “all in” when they recognize something truly valuable, we as wives are called to invest in our marriages with our whole hearts. Every prayer, every act of patience, every sacrifice is a seed sown—and the return is a strong, joy-filled marriage marked by God’s goodness.
Overcoming Marriage Problems
Every marriage faces disappointment — but much of that pain stems from misplaced expectation. When we expect our spouse to fill every need, we set ourselves up for frustration. But when we place our expectation on God, He fills our hearts with peace, joy, and the strength to love without conditions.
Jessica Curtis shares her personal journey of learning to let go of demands and receive her husband as a gift, not a checklist. Through Scripture, humor, and real-life stories, she reminds wives that God alone is the Source of every good thing.
If you’ve been weary from unmet expectations or frustrated by your spouse’s flaws, this letter will refresh your faith and show you how to love freely again — not by control, but by trust in the One who never disappoints.
Deep within every marriage lies treasure — not always seen on the surface, but planted by God Himself. Like diamond diggers who search through the dirt with faith and expectation, we too must look beyond imperfections to uncover the precious gifts hidden within our spouse.
In this message, Matthew and Jessica Curtis remind us that the good we choose to see and value is the good we will experience. Honor draws out what’s hidden; love uncovers what’s buried. Your husband or wife is full of God-given gems just waiting to shine — but they’re revealed only to those who will dig in faith, not frustration.
Pray for eyes to see the good, wisdom to draw it out, and a heart that treasures the one God gave you.
Peace is a gift Jesus paid for, yet it can be quickly lost when we let pride, careless words, or strife slip in. This Christmas, choose to hold your peace. Guard your mouth, walk in humility, and let the peace of Christ rule in your home so your celebrations reflect Him—the Prince of Peace.
After 19 years, we’ve learned this: marital “trouble” lives in the flesh—and peace flourishes in the Spirit. This letter unpacks Galatians 5 and Romans 8 to show how renewing your mind in the Word shifts you from contention, pride, and impatience to love, joy, peace, and self-control. Choose the Spirit daily, and watch marriage conflict fade while unity and closeness grow.
If you want spiritual results in your marriage, you have to be spiritual. This letter unpacks Romans 8 and Galatians 5 to show why flesh fuels fear, pride, and strife—and how a renewed mind plus real fellowship with the Holy Spirit turns your home into a place of life and peace. Includes practical “small swaps” (Proverbs-a-day, prayer on your commute, worship in everyday moments) to strengthen your spirit and quiet the flesh.
Sometimes we find ourselves trying to manage, direct, or “fix” our spouse, believing we know what’s best. But control steals peace and undermines love. God calls us to trust Him with our husbands, to release the pressure and rest in His leadership. When we let go of control, honor returns—and peace follows.
So many marital frustrations trace back to one root: misplaced expectation. When our hope rests on a spouse’s performance, disappointment is inevitable. This letter invites wives to shift their gaze to the Lord—“my expectation is from Him” (Ps. 62:5)—and to receive every act from their husband as a gift, not a demand. Trade checklists for gratitude and watch love, peace, and joy grow.
When we honor our spouse, we position ourselves to receive what God has placed inside of them. Honor unlocks intimacy, wisdom, and joy in marriage
Keeping The Joy In Your Marriage
After 20 years of marriage, Matthew and Jessica Curtis have found more joy, laughter, and love than ever before — and they say it’s not because they’re perfect, but because of the Lord.
In this powerful encouragement, they remind us that rejoicing is the key to refreshing your marriage and drawing on the power of God. When couples choose joy, even in challenges, God restores what’s been broken and breathes new life into the relationship.
As Isaiah 12:3 declares, “With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation.” If your marriage needs a fresh outpouring of love and strength, start rejoicing again — and watch the Lord bring you out stronger than ever.
Joy is a spiritual strength that keeps our marriages alive and flourishing, even in seasons of pressure or stress. When we choose joy—when we laugh together, sing, play, remember God’s goodness, and refuse to yield to heaviness—the atmosphere of our home changes. Real joy comes from believing we will see God’s goodness, right in the land of the living. Let’s put on the garment of praise and bring life and refreshment back into our marriages.
Be careful how you think about your husband—your marriage is shaped by your thoughts. Choose thankfulness and watch love flourish.
Walking In Love In Your Marriage
Many marriages get stuck in a silent standoff: “I’ll give love when I feel respected,” or “I’ll show respect when I feel loved.” But Jesus didn’t wait—He loved first. When husbands and wives each choose to obey God’s Word without waiting on the other, the marriage becomes a threefold cord, bound together with Christ, unbreakable and strong.
Human love has limits—but the God-kind of love does not. This letter shows how selfishness dries up marriages and how agape love, already poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit, revives, restores, and strengthens the marriage bond. When both husband and wife choose to give instead of take, the marriage becomes a well-watered garden, overflowing with life and peace.
Give your marriage the gift of fresh. With God’s mercy, forgiveness, and love, every day is a chance for a clean slate and renewed joy
Cultivating Unity In Your Marriage
When your husband is under pressure, the enemy will try to tempt you to judge, accuse, or pull away. Job’s wife believed the accuser’s voice and spoke destruction — but we are called to stand in love, to believe the best, and to guard unity. This letter teaches how to recognize the enemy’s accusations, resist them, and replace them with God’s truth so your marriage remains strong and safe.
Marriage isn’t just about not doing the wrong thing — it’s about intentionally choosing the right thing toward your spouse. When we remember that we are “one flesh,” we stop treating each other's weaknesses as burdens and instead stay connected, supportive, and united. Every step toward each other strengthens the marriage; every step away invites division.
Sometimes we don’t realize how often we are “contending” with our husbands—coming against them in steady comments, corrections, and resistance. Proverbs calls this the contentious woman, and God shows us that the root of this comes from the heart. Just like repairing a leak, the healing comes when we let the Lord reveal and address the root issue. When we return to standing with our husbands instead of facing against them, peace begins to flow again.
Becoming a Godly Wife
Sometimes without realizing it, we begin speaking to our spouse the same way we speak to our children—correcting, directing, and controlling. But mothering your husband (or fathering your wife) reveals a lack of trust and slowly weakens the bond God designed for marriage. Stepping back, honoring one another’s God-given roles, and choosing love over control restores unity and strengthens intimacy.
God created you with your husband in mind—not as a burden or an afterthought, but as a gift of goodness, support, and favor for his life. When you let God reshape how you see yourself as a wife, your marriage begins to reflect His design. You are a treasure to your husband, and your role carries divine purpose.
Disrespect in marriage rarely comes from nowhere—it grows from hurt that hasn’t been healed. But God shows us how to uproot bitterness and restore honor. When we recognize the hurt, repent, renew our minds, and choose honor again, we recover closeness, unity, and the joy God intended for marriage.
Proverbs doesn’t just warn husbands about the “strange woman”—it warns wives not to become like her. The strange woman flatters, manipulates, and seeks her own advantage. A godly wife, however, loves from a pure and sincere heart, giving her husband a place of safety and trust. This letter invites us to examine our motives and return to the honest, faithful love that reflects Christ.
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Intimacy is meant to be a flowing, refreshing fountain in marriage—not something stagnant or forgotten. When we intentionally love and bless our husbands physically, we reopen the river of closeness, joy, and unity. May our marriages be filled with living waters again.
What does helping our husbands actually look like in daily life? This collection of heartfelt responses from real husbands and wives reveals simple, powerful ways a wife supports her husband—spiritually, emotionally, and practically—by embracing her God-given role as his helpmate.
As help mates, we are in good company with the Holy Spirit—the greatest Helper of all time. His example empowers us to comfort, strengthen, and love our husbands well.
If someone had told me before marriage that God created me with my husband in mind, I would’ve melted at how romantic that sounded. But when real life hit, those words stung more than they comforted.
Years of heartache and growth later, I finally see the truth: I really was created with Matt in mind — not as something lesser, but as something GOOD. God’s Word calls wives a “good thing” and a channel of His favor. We were designed to bring help, strength, and grace into our husbands’ lives — and in doing so, we reflect God’s own goodness.
So take heart, wife. You are not an afterthought or an accessory. You are a living expression of God’s favor — His GOOD gift to your husband, created to shine His goodness right in your home.
Submission In Marriage & Family
Submission in marriage isn’t one-sided—it’s a shared posture of honor. Ephesians 5:21 tells us to “submit to one another in the fear of God,” meaning both husband and wife have something of Jesus to bring into the relationship. When we yield to each other in humility, we strengthen our unity and operate together in the fullness God intended for our marriage.
Submission isn’t agreement—it’s trust. God designed it for our good, and when we yield to His way, we never lose—we only gain.
Staying Thankful In Your Marriage
Many are living the life they once prayed for — but can’t see it. Unthankfulness blinds the heart, while gratitude flips the light back on. This Thanksgiving, choose joy, notice God’s goodness, and rediscover the blessing right in front of you.
A thankful wife opens the door for God to do more in her marriage. Discover how gratitude can shift your heart, your home, and your relationship.
Experiencing The Goodness Of God In Your Family
While celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in Playa del Carmen, Jessica and I found ourselves surrounded by God’s beauty — turquoise waters, gentle breezes, and rest for our souls. As we soaked in His goodness, something incredible happened: we began to dream bigger. Suddenly, the idea of having a pool in our own backyard didn’t feel far-fetched at all — it felt possible.
God’s goodness has a way of expanding our vision. When we stop limiting Him to what we think we can afford or accomplish on our own, we make room for the impossible to become reality. Whether it’s a pool, a healed marriage, or a new dream for your family, His goodness births vision — and that vision, partnered with faith, makes the unseen seen.
Because when God’s people display His goodness in their lives, He gets the glory. And as Jesus said, when He is lifted up, He draws all people to Himself.
So lift your eyes higher today. The same God who paints oceans and planets is more than able to pour out His goodness in your life — abundantly.
The Gospel isn’t just good advice—it’s GOOD NEWS from a GOOD God. Every time we open our hearts to His Word, we invite His goodness to manifest in our lives, marriages, and families.
In this letter, Matthew and Jessica Curtis remind us that to experience the goodness of God, we must first hear and know it. The same Jesus who preached good news to the poor, healed the brokenhearted, and set captives free is still doing GOOD today.
No matter what your marriage, home, or situation looks like right now, the GOOD NEWS of the Gospel declares: healing is possible, restoration is available, and your best days are still ahead. God isn’t withholding His goodness—it’s already been poured out through Jesus!
When God gives you a vision, He already has the provision.
In this heartfelt letter, Matthew and Jessica Curtis share how a simple pool vision became a living testimony of God’s GOODNESS. Without asking anyone or striving to make it happen, God orchestrated every detail — even stirring a friend’s heart to sow into the very dream He had placed in theirs.
This story isn’t about a pool — it’s about a GOOD Father who delights in giving good gifts to His children. His desire is to bless your marriage, your family, and every area of your life so that His goodness shines through you. When you trust Him, He turns desires into testimonies and vision into reality.
When the Lord asks us to release something we value, it’s never to leave us empty—it’s to place something greater into our hands. This is the story of how God prompted me to give away my own wedding ring and how He beautifully restored and multiplied what was surrendered. Let this testimony remind your heart that whatever the Master needs, He always repays with love, purpose, and joy.